Repairing Broken Relationships


Ever notice that we live in a disposable society? We use things and then throw them away. Razors, batteries, paper plates, and marriages are just a few of the things we tend to use for a while and then discard. But anything that is valuable is worth keeping. If you keep something long enough, it will eventually need repairing.

I have owned my vehicle for eight years. It has over 160,000 miles on it. It serves me well and the best part is it is paid for! Recently it needed a tune-up. In order to repair it, I needed the right tools and the right people. I had to make sure that the right tools were used. If I used a hammer, then it would have done more damage than good. I had to get the right people to help as well. I don’t have skill in repairing vehicles, so I used a mechanic to repair it.

Your relationships are valuable. They don’t get repaired by accident but on purpose. It must be intentional. They are not disposable. They will eventually need work. God gives us the right tools, which are found in the Bible, and the right person, which is Jesus Christ.

In Matthew 5:9 Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” (ESV)

Notice that he did not say peacekeepers, but peacemakers. Peacekeepers are reactive and will often compromise what is right to keep the peace. Peacemakers, on the other hand, are proactive. They pursue peace through the gospel and grace of Jesus.

Being called a son or daughter of God means that you receive the covenant promises that God made with his people through the finished work of Jesus. It means that Christ followers are the recipients of God’s incredible grace.

Here are four tools that will help you repair the broken relationships in your life.

1.    The Tool Of Forgiveness.  

Peacemakers forgive and ask for forgiveness. If you are going to have a lasting relationship of any kind you will need o exercise forgiveness. This is true with marriage, family, friends, and with people you go to church with.

Colossians 3:13 "Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others." (NLT)

2.    The Tool Of Kindness.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 4:32,“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (ESV) A simple of kindness can be an effective tool in repairing relationships. You may be surprised at how greatly a little kindness affects any relationship. We must be kind, especially at church. Sometimes the only kindness people ever receive is at church, so make sure to be aware of the needs of people around you.

3.    The Tool Of Wisdom

Not every relationship is healthy. Some need to be eliminated altogether. Manage your relationships wisely. Sometimes the wisest thing to do is end a relationship that is harmful. This is true in dating and friendships. This can be true of social media. But some relationships are unavoidable, like in-laws and work associates. We must do everything in our power to operate in God’s wisdom.

Romans 12:18 “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” (NIV)

4.    The Tool Of Good News.

One of the most powerful ways to bring peace is to share the Good News of Jesus with others. I believe that the gospel is the only answer to all the problems in the world today. War, racial conflict, violence, manipulation, the powerful taking advantage of the powerless: these are just a few problems we face today. What is the answer? It is the good news of Jesus! I realize that we can’t put our heads in the sand and ignore these problems. But the real answer begins with Jesus! I really believe that sharing the Good News is the most powerful way to make peace.

If you do not currently need to repair a relationship, then you will soon. It is inevitable. But thank God we have hope through Jesus! Trust him today and he will give you the tools to begin healing the damaged relationships in your life.