How to Help Others Get Through What They are Going Through 


Every person will deal with a loss at some point in his or her life. It is inevitable. At the very least we will deal with the loss of a loved one to death, whether it is the unexpected death of someone we deem too young to die or the loss of a loved one who lived a long and fruitful life. But other losses cause us to experience pain as well, like a lost job, a divorce, a breakup, a missed opportunity, or even losing a house or apartment. 

Whenever things like this happen people have questions. Where was God during this? Why did he not stop it? If God is truly a loving God, then how could he allow this to happen? During times of loss and mourning Christians have a responsibility to minister to hurting people in the church and the community. Here are a few ways you can help others during times of grief.

Be There

Sometimes it is hard to know what to say. Often, we feel awkward and don’t do or say anything. The Bible explicitly tells us that we should, “Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.”(Galatians 6:2) What is the law of Christ? It is the commandment to love each other. One of the ways you express love for people is to be there for them.That is what sharing a burden means. Words are important but not as essential as being present. Even if you don’t know what else to say, that is enough. 

Pray with Them

Psalm 62:8 says, “Pour out your heart to him, for God is our refuge.”God not only answers prayer in times of trouble, he expects us to pray during tough times. God is a refuge. A refuge is a safe place, a harbor, or a retreat. You may not understand the reason for the loss but praying aligns your life under God’s protection and will. This produces a sense of peace and grows your faith.

Patiently Answer Their Questions

Do not get frustrated with people when their faith seems weak during a tragedy. Help them look back to God. Don’t use Christian clichés that seem insensitive and uncaring. I do believe all things work together for good for those who love God, but I think you need to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit in your language. Just because a person has questions does not mean that he or she doesn’t love God. Questions about why God allows bad things to happen are legitimate. There are answers from the Bible to these questions. Respond sensitively to these questions and don’t assume he or she lacks faith. 

One thing that may help is to remember that God created mankind with a free will. God is responsible for the fact of free will and we are responsible for the acts of free will. God always has a purpose. Just because we can’t see the purpose does not mean that there isn’t one. The Psalmist wrote about people who trust God during difficult times when he said, “He is not afraid of receiving bad news; his faith is strong, and he trusts in the Lord.”Psalm 112:7

Acknowledge that You Don’t Have All the Answers 

I recently read a quote from a Christian leader that said, “People would rather follow a leader who is always real rather than one who is always right.”Don’t be the pompous know-it-all. That frustrates rather than helps. Learn to let people know that you have questions too but that you trust God because of his goodness. The prophet Nahum wrote, “The Lord is good, a strong refuge when trouble comes. He is close to those who trust in him.”Nahum 1:7

Point them to the Cross

The cross of Jesus Christ is the ultimate answer to human tragedy. The crucifixion of Christ was the most outrageous act of evil in world history. Humans murdered God the Son. Yet, at the same time it was the only possible solution for sin and the greatest act of love the world has ever known. It enables us to be forgiven, declared righteous, and redeemed back to God. It will ultimately lead to the redemption of all of creation back to God’s original purpose. Christ’s death and resurrection defeated sin, death, and hell. One day, death, evil, sorrow, pain, and tears will be no more. But until that day we have a Savior that empowers us and embraces us during our suffering. That is possible only because God the Son lived a fully human, sinless life, died on a cross as our sacrifice, rose from the grave, and is coming again. When you point people to the cross, you remind them that Jesus suffered evil actions against himself and that he understands what we are going through. 

2 Corinthians 1:8-10 “We were crushed and overwhelmed beyond our ability to endure, and we thought we would never live through it. In fact, we expected to die. But as a result, we stopped relying on ourselves and learned to rely only on God, who raises the dead. And he did rescue us from mortal danger, and he will rescue us again. We have placed our confidence in him, and he will continue to rescue us.”

No matter what loss we experience, our hope is found in Jesus Christ. Reminding others of his love for us is the best way to help people recover and find joy in the midst of difficulty. You can offer hope to the hurting. 



How to Read the Bible (and Love It) in 2019



Most Christians want to feel connected to God but struggle to stay consistent reading the Bible and praying. Sometimes that is a result of being too busy. Many times, it is because we have good intentions but poor plans. In my opinion, it is often because we do not fully understand how to make reading the Bible and praying meaningful and enjoyable. Things that we enjoy we do. Try going on a diet that starves you. You will grit it out for a while but living a life where you are always hungry is not sustainable for most people. Why do you think so many people lose weight only to put it back on again? 

Although you may need more discipline in your life, (who doesn’t, right?) chances are that it is not more discipline you need but more enjoyment in your devotional life. Think of it like a relationship. Would you feel like your marriage was strong if you only did things together as a couple because you were disciplined and had a daily checklist? I doubt that kind of relationship would last very long. You may need some discipline to get started, but you need to enjoy each other’s company eventually or your relationship will die. 

Here are a few thoughts on how to connect with God regularly through prayer and Bible reading and how you can learn to love it. 

  •  Think of it as Soul Fuel.

Why do you want to read the Bible and pray? If it is simply because you feel guilty or the preacher told you to, then you will probably not get much out of it. Before long, you will begin to feel like something is wrong with you because you don’t enjoy it. Most likely you will continue in the cycle of frustration that keeps you thinking that you must not love God very much because, if you did, you would not struggle so much. 

If, however, you desire to connect with God and grow closer to him, then that changes the dynamic. If you know that you are going to meet the God of the universe, then that gets you pumped up and ready. It changes your motivation and your thinking. I have often heard men say they don’t read the Bible because they don’t like to read. Yet they will read for hours to learn stats so they can win their fantasy football league. The problem, then, is not that they don’t read the Bible because they don’t like to read, but because they think they can’t understand the Bible. They probably did not learn the why of the goal before they set their goal. Identifying the why changes the dynamic. Once you discover the goal behind the goal it motivates you. You must find enjoyment. I rarely hate eating. In fact, it brings me a lot of joy because it satisfies my appetite and fuels my body. 

  • Plan it or you won’t do it.

This is very important. You have to put the “big rocks” into your schedule first. If you want to connect with God, then you have to see it as a priority in your life. It will probably require that you change your schedule. You can’t treat a priority like another add-on. This is true of any goal. You won’t exercise if you don’t treat it as a big rock in your schedule. Neither will you read the Bible and pray regularly if you don’t prioritize it in your schedule. 

  • Set yourself up for success.

This is where many people stumble in their devotional life. They set goals that are unreasonable. They fail to take into consideration their own rhythms and the unique way that God created them. I like reading the Bible and praying to start my day. That is my best time and I am definitely more consistent if I plan it at the beginning of my day. But if your rhythm is that you are not awake until after you have been up for two hours, then you are not actually reading the Bible but just changing your sleeping position. It is possible that you need to go to bed earlier so you can start your day earlier. But it is also possible that you need to change your schedule at lunch or when you get home or your routine before you go to bed. 

The point is you need to set yourself up for success. Find out what connects you to God best and do it. You do not have to do it like everyone else. I highly recommend using or the Bible App to set yourself up for success. 

  •  Tell someone about it. 

Sharing it with others helps you celebrate the win. Tell your spouse, a friend, or a small group member what you have been reading. Text a friend. Tell them what God is speaking to you about. Ask them to share with you what God is doing in their life. By including others, not only are you celebrating the win, but also, you are speaking into the lives of others. This kind of fellowship is encouraging to you and them. 

I hope that you will find yourself closer to God in 2019 than you have ever been. You can connect with God through consistent Bible reading and prayer. I believe it is going to be a great year for you!


Conquer Stress This Christmas Holiday



Have you ever pondered why Christmas is filled with so much paradox in our culture? Christ’s birth is second only to his resurrection in the amount of joy it should bring people all across the world. The angels announced hope, peace, and great joy to all people because God came to be with us. Even the commercialization of Christmas is festive with all of the decorations, gifts, and parties. Yet studies show that during the holiday season people feel more loneliness and stress than any other time of year. Christmas began with God giving the greatest gift of all and we celebrate by giving gifts to those we love. Yet we can see the embodiment of greed in the way we overspend and over shop. It is called “Black Friday” for a reason. You might get bruised badly if you don’t get out of the way of a crazy-eyed woman near the sale rack. 

I’m no scrooge. I love this time of the year. I love the gifts, the parties, the decorations, the family gatherings, and the celebration. But if we are not thoughtful and intentional, we will get sucked into the absurdity of stress and strain during the time that is supposed to be filled with peace, hope, and joy. Here are a few tips on how to conquer stress and live in peace this Christmas. 

Serve Intentionally 

I have found that serving someone in the name of Jesus is wonderfully stress relieving. Serve in your church. There will be many people who visit your church this year who don’t have a relationship with Jesus. Your serving will make an impact and will contribute to someone coming to Christ. That is a gift that will last forever! 

Do something for someone who is truly in need. You will find that far more satisfying than serving copious amounts of food to glutinous, ungrateful relatives. You will find great joy in serving someone who can’t do anything in return for you. 

Give a Gift That Matters

Everyone loves giving gifts to their children at Christmas. That is a wonderful tradition. But why not talk to your family about taking some of the money you plan to spend on each other and help a needy family? It instills character and gratitude. You will discover this act of generosity will take your focus off of your situation and will put it on the less fortunate. That helps especially if you have lost a loved one or have a painful memory associated with Christmas. Your heart will grow more thankful. When we are truly thankful it helps us overcome the stress that comes from feeling sorry for ourselves and turns your heart toward God. It is hard to feel grateful and stressed out at the same time.  

Take a Trip

Taking a trip to grandma’s house is wonderful because connecting with family is important. But why not take a trip to a homeless shelter or a rescue mission? Seeing the plight of others can be powerful and will affect your attitude in a positive way. Talk with your family about the many blessings you have. Pray for a missionary. Look at their pictures on Facebook and pray for their family and the families of those they are trying to reach. It will help you keep things in perspective and it will be a blessing to them. 

Pray Together

Take some time this Christmas to pray together. Don’t get caught up in the way the world thinks. Remember why we celebrate Christmas. Don’t let Christmas be the only birthday celebration that you forget about whose birthday you are celebrating. 

Christmas can be stressful if we forget why we celebrate. God sent his messengers to announce that Christmas brings hope, joy, and peace. Don’t fall prey to silly stress this year. Remember why Jesus came and you will conquer stress this year!



How to Have More Joy and Less Worry This Christmas Season



I love Christmas! From the time I was a child it has been my favorite time of year. I love the decorations, the music, the traditions, and the festivities. Of course, the entire purpose for the season is the birth of the Son of God, the Savior, the Messiah, Christ the Lord. Many Christians seem to forget that the gospel is designed to bring joy to its hearers and to the cities and communities where it is proclaimed. The Good News produces joy in our hearts, attitudes, and even at a cellular level. Yes, joy and laughter are good for your body!

The Psalmist wrote in Psalm 100 that we are to “serve the Lord with gladness.” Too many Christians seem to think that God told us to serve the Lord with duty, anger, resentment, hatefulness, weirdness, or sadness. I don’t know about you, but I want more gladness and less sadness. So, what does it mean to serve the Lord with gladness?

1. The Christian life is a happy life. 

You can’t justify wrong behavior just because you think, “God wants me to be happy.” Christians, however, have so many reasons to be happy. As a pastor I have observed many who think that sinful behavior leads to happiness but is does not. The happiest people I know are Christians who have committed themselves completely to God. 

2. You can overcome bad circumstances. 

Joy is contagious. It is not based on your circumstances but on your relationship with Christ. One of the evidences of being filled and controlled by the Holy Spirit is that you have joy. Joy prevails in spite of bad news when you know that Christ is with you. Jesus has already won so, let’s crank up the joy this Christmas! 

3. Contentment is a choice.

Be careful about seeking greener grass. It may be greener because it is over a sewer. When you keep your eyes on the Lord, you learn contentment and rest in who you are because of who God is. Serve the Lord and be contented!

4. Delight is better than dissatisfaction.

I love what the Psalmist wrote in Psalm 37. “Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Contentment. Satisfaction. Fulfillment. These all come from delighting in the Lord and serving him with gladness.

5. It is OK to smile. 

Cheerfulness is a good thing in spite of how some Christians act. It is OK to smile and be nice. You do not need to throw rocks at others. You don’t have to be mean and angry. Serve the Lord with cheerfulness!

6. Pleasure is created by God and is good. 

This may come as a shock to some people, but God came up with the idea of pleasure. It is OK to enjoy life. Think of all the pleasures God created for us to enjoy so that we would worship him more. Seeing, hearing, touching, smelling, and tasting are not just meant for survival but for our pleasure. Enjoy beauty and serve the Lord with gladness!

Express joy this Christmas. Even if you feel a little discouraged, you can have joy when you remember that God is with you. Jesus has won. He has a plan for your life. He has blessed you so much. Think on these things and be glad!

Pray for our Miracle Offering on December 2nd


Ecclesiastes 11:4 (NLT)If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done. 

Too many times we put off until later what God leads us to do right now. Now is the time to act and take a step of faith! I think this is true for the Miracle Offering. Don’t wait! Do it now! 

God clearly promises to bless us when we are generous. The beauty of giving God’s way is that God truly wants this for you not from you. God blesses me when I give. This is stated over and over in the Bible.  God blesses those who give to His work.  A good example of this is in the book of 1 Kings. Elijah was a prophet of God. There was a famine in the land. Elijah asked a woman who was down to her last meal to do something for him.  He said put God first, make a meal for me, and watch what happens.  

1 Kings 17:8 "Elijah said, ‘Don't be afraid. Go ahead and cook that "last meal" but bake me a little loaf of bread first and afterwards there will still be enough food for you and your son.  For this is what the Lord says, "There will always be enough flour and oil left in your containers until the time when the Lord sends rains and the crops will grow again.' So she did as Elijah said and she and Elijah and her son continued to eat from her supply of flour and oil for many days.  For no matter how much they used there was always just enough left in the containers just as the Lord had promised through Elijah."           

So there really isn’t a bad time to learn this faith lesson. The best time to give may be when I'm flat broke and need God's help to get out of debt or to get out of financial trouble. God truly wants us to trust him in the middle of our own personal famine. When I put God first He'll take care of my needs. I cannot out give God.

Pray for our Miracle Offering on December 2nd. God has a miracle waiting for you if you will trust him!

I love you and can’t wait to see you on Sunday!

Pastor Ritchie Miller 

Take Time to be Thankful


This Thursday is Thanksgiving Day. I think every day should be Thanksgiving for a Christian. If you are like most of us, you are probably really busy getting ready for a family gathering over Thanksgiving dinner. We buy stuff, cook stuff, decorate stuff, try to finish our list before the end of our workday, and make plans for a trip to see family. The one thing we often fail to do is take the time to be thankful. We even get impatient with the long-winded prayer before we stuff our faces and waddle to the couch to watch football between naps. (Here is a practical tip for all the overeaters: wear pants with an elastic waistband. It pays to be prepared!)

In all the hustle and bustle, take a few minutes this week and write down ten things you are thankful for and then share it with someone. We all have way more than ten things to be thankful for. Here is my list:

  • Jesus 

  • Salvation

  • My amazing family

  • The amazing people of Avalon Church 

  • I am thankful I got to start and pastor Avalon Church

  • Good friends that have helped shape my life

  • Health

  • Freedom

  • That God has provided a house, food, and clothing for me while many in the world are in need

  • The future – I am excited about what comes next!

What will you put on your list? 


Two Important Things I Learned in Six Months of Parenting


[Guest Post by our Family Ministries Pastor Brady Ellis]

Something I have learned during my career in ministry is that you can never truly understand what it's like to go through certain seasons in life until you actually experience them for yourself.  Six months ago, I embarked on a season called parenting.  In over 12 years in family ministry, I have seen many moments of parenting. Some have been good, and some have been less than good.  In those moments, I have learned not to judge.  As the famous quote says, “Just wait till you have one of your own.”  I now have my own, and I have had two important realizations in these six short months.

 In our nursery, we have a simple piece of wall art from Hobby Lobby. Every morning after I wake up my son Liam and get him dressed for the day, we read this piece of wall art. It says, “I AM the son of a King who is not moved by the world, for my God is with me and goes before me. I do not fear because I am HIS”.  This has become one of the most important parts of our day.

The first realization that has become so much more apparent to me (no pun intended) is that speaking life into a child’s spirit starts before they are born and should continue on as long as we live.  Although I want Liam to be a lot of things in his life, before he knows what he is, I want him to know whose he is.  That starts by speaking to his spirit.  Although he may not understand the words I speak from a cognitive perspective, I do believe his spirit is very much learning and receiving things already.  Every week I take time to do this.  I will say, “You are brave, you are wise, you are a son of God, you are strong, compassionate, loving, joyful, etc."  When I say these things, I say them to speak life into the spirit inside of him and into all of the characteristics that God has placed in him.

In this world, we are overwhelmed by people, places, and things.  Much of our time is being pulled at by things like someone who needs us, our job or home responsibilities, or our technological devices.  Every moment of our life is being consumed by these things.  This is because our time is the most valuable thing we have.  There is a saying, “The greatest gift you can give someone is your time.  Because when you give your time you are giving a portion of your life that you will never get back.”  

This leads to the second thing I have learned. It is something that on paper I knew to be true, but now that I am living it, I understand like I never could have before.  Time is fleeting, but memories will last forever, especially with the help of technology.  The way we laugh and smile with each other is something that we only have a limited amount of moments to enjoy.  The time I spend with my son will always be time well spent.  Already the first six months of his great life have flown by.  It is hard to remember how little he was as I took him into my arms for the first time. But, I will always remember the first time I got him to truly laugh, and in turn, had me laughing uncontrollably.  I remember the first time I read him a bedtime story and he was absolutely enthralled with it.  Memories are made by moments and moments are only created by time spent.  A photographer once said that on averaged it takes 2,000 photos just to get 20 that are good. Not even great, just good. I believe moments are the same way.  It takes a lot of moments, some good and some bad, in order to create great moments.  So, I give Liam my time in order for us to create moments we will never forget.  

There is another part to this realization about time and moments.  How I spend my time with my son also teaches him what is important to me, which in turn will most likely become the things that are important to him.  I want my son to grow up seeing that the most important things in my life are the ones that draw me toward a relationship with God.  I want him to see that time in fellowship with believers is important, that my personal relationship with God and his word are important, and that my wife and family are the most important things besides that relationship with God.  What we spend our time on tells our children what is most important to us.

When it comes to being a parent, there are things that we can never comprehend the importance of until you are put in the situation.  In the short six months I have been a parent, I have realized a lot. To me, the most important thing I have realized is how I can be a father that points my son to his creator.

Brady Ellis

The Number One Reason Why People Who Want to be Generous Can’t



You are probably thinking that the number one reason why people who want to be generous can’t is because they can’t afford it. That may seem obvious, but I believe the real reason is different. If you have been around me very long, you have probably heard me say something like, “You can’t afford NOT to give.”I base this fully on God’s promises to supply our needs, to bless us when we give, to lift the curse off our money when we tithe, and to rebuke the things that devour our money when we trust in Him. 

The reality is that most Americans are in such deep debt that they have lost hope. Most don’t think they could survive a $1,000 crisis. The average American is over $16,000 in credit card debt and the average student loan exceeds $50,000. No wonder so many live from paycheck to paycheck. Is there any wonder that there are over 1300 verses in the Bible about money and possessions? We need God’s help and God’s perspective. 

As with every part of the Christian life, money management begins with faith. While you may think that I am referring to the faith to tithe and trust God to give, I believe it must start further back than that. It begins with the faith to manage our money, our desires, our expectations, and our contentment. If you are so far in debt that you are about to lose your house, your apartment, or your car, it probably feels oppressive when a pastor challenges you to give. 

Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” That is why I say things like, “Generous people are happy people” and, “We want this for yournot from you.” The blessing of giving begins with understanding that God owns everything, and we are simply the managers of what is His. 

What is the number one reason most people think they can’t give? I believe it is a poverty mentality.The poverty mentality has nothing to do with how much money you have. You can be rich and have a poverty mentality. Even if you make lots of money, you will never have enough to cover every eventuality. The poverty mentality means that you perceive there is never enough. Even in a time of amazing abundance we tend to convince ourselves that there are not enough resources to accomplish our God-given dreams, to give, or to be secure. We limit our potential by lacking faith and believing in scarcity rather than abundance. As a follower of Christ, we have no right to believe that there is not enough. The Bible is abundantly clear that God owns it all. Jesus is not short on resources and everything in the universe has Jesus as its goal and belongs to him. He owns it all because the Father has given it to him - all the resources both human and financial. He has the power to supply ALL OUR NEEDS according to Philippians 4:19; “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”

I truly believe that most Christians have a desire to give and be generous. Many have a faith problem rather than a desire problem. There are always more than enough resources if we look to the Heavenly Father. God is the one who owns the resources and he has the will to provide. He loves you. He has promised to supply all your needs. Notice that he supplies “according to” not “out of.” If you were to ask me for money because you have a need and I decided to help because I have the ability and desire, then I have two options. First, I could supply your needs “out of” my resources. That means there is a limit. I have decided that there will be a limited amount of money I will give you because I am giving to you “out of” my bank account. On the other hand, if I agree to help you “according to” my resources, then I have just given you carte blanche. You can expect that I will meet your needs all the way to the limit of my resources. God promises to meet our needs “according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” He has no limit on his resources. 

I believe that bringing the full tithe is the starting point for conquering the poverty mentality. Of course, committing to this faith endeavor will cause you to look at ALL of your money God’s way. It takes faith to believe God owns everything. It takes faith to believe that you can get out of debt. It takes faith to believe that you can build margin in your life. But it also requires action!  Faith without works is dead, according to the Bible. The beginning point is to ask God to give you the faith to tithe AND to manage all of your money as if God owns it all. There is help available. There are many resources to help you learn how to conquer debt and build margin financially. If you struggle with a poverty mentality from time to time, I hope you will consider these things to help you start believing in God’s abundance.  

  • God owns it all. He has more than enough to meet your needs.

  • God loves you and wants to bless you. If earthly fathers love to meet the needs of their children, how much more does our perfect, righteous, amazing Heavenly Father love to meet our needs?

  • I must act in faith. I must trust his promises and goodness.

  • I must center my focus on God’s loving nature and believe that he will supply.

  • I must stop living in fear with a scarcity mentality and realize that there are more than enough resources to meet my needs. 

  • I must change my actions and get a plan. It would be irresponsible to continue to live with unbearable debt and HOPE that a raise or a sudden windfall would solve my financial problems. There is hope! But you can’t continue to live the same way, do the same things, and spend the same way and expect things to improve magically. 

As you begin to acknowledge, practice, and believe these things, your faith will start to transform your thinking. When that happens, then there is nothing you can’t do! You can get out of debt, build margin, and find financial peace. By asking God for the faith to manage all your moneyis the starting point for discovering the promise of Jesus: It is more blessed to give than to receive. 




If You Won the Lottery, Would You Be Happier?



A lot has been said in the news and on social media lately about the record-setting lottery. While we all have probably fantasized about winning millions of dollars, it brings up a very important question. Do you find your happiness from your circumstances or do you have contentment and joy in Christ? Here are a few things I have learned about happiness and contentment:


  • Happiness can’t be bought.Having lots of money may pay for the search for happiness, but it sure can’t buy it. We all know or have heard of people with lots of money and little joy.

  • Happiness is a choice.I get to choose every day. Happy, mad, glad, or sad. My choice.

  • Happiness is a journey not a destination. We must learn to enjoy the journey and smell the roses along the way. 

  • Happiness can’t exist without contentment.The Bible tells us that godliness with contentment is great gain.

  • Money can change your zip code but not your attitude. 

  • Comparing my life to others is a waste of time and a sure-fire way to discontentment.

  • When I take time to enjoy beauty, pleasure, and the simple things, I am much happier.

  • I need to take Jesus Christ very seriously and lighten up on everything else.  

  • Some people will never like you. Be OK with that and you will be much happier. Winning the lottery might even make it harder to know who your real friends are.

  • The greater my purpose and the more passionately I pursue it, the happier I am.

  • I need to laugh a lot. Laughter is free, and it is the best medicine. 

  • Being happy is a lot better than being mad. 

  • No one is in charge of my happiness but me. 

Now if you actually win, your tithe should be made out to Avalon Church, 1467 HWY 20 West, McDonough, GA 30253. Just saying. 

What Would Jesus Say If He Had a Cable News Show?



The current political climate in our country makes it easy to descend into the depths with our rhetoric. In fact, it is hard not to spew venom and call political opposites despicable names. But how should a Christian engage with a culture that has lost all civility and collegiality? What would Jesus say?

I have strong core values and beliefs that are rooted in the Word of God and my relationship with Jesus Christ. We live in a country that affords us extraordinary liberties. I believe that you should exercise your right to vote and engage in the political process. Otherwise, you have no right to complain. But what about our language? What does the Bible say about the way we speak to each other?

First of all, they called Jesus some awful names: liar, lunatic, demon-possessed, traitor, heretic, a devil, and a blasphemer. They followed it up by crucifying Him on a cross. No matter what names He was called, He always spoke the truth in love, commanded us to love our neighbors, and even shocked the world by saying that we should love our enemies. That would be a good starting point for Christians engaging our culture. What else can we learn from scripture about our tongue?

James 1:26 states, “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.”The concept of a worthless religion means that it is not genuine. It is deceptive and hypocritical, and thus in vain. The point is that we can damage the effect of the gospel with the things we say. Our words can easily contradict our beliefs. 

According to Solomon, reckless talk creates chaos. Irresponsible talk makes a real mess of things…” (Proverbs 13:17)This is true in political discourse, in marriage, with your children, with your friends, and at work. If I am irresponsible with the things I say and the way I say them, then I am throwing a potential grenade in the middle of all my environments. 

What’s more, God says that he despises gossip, sowing discord, and creating divisions among the people we are supposed to love and serve. 

Proverbs 6:16-19 “There are six things that the Lordhates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.”

Psalm 101:5 “Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy…”

What Kind of Talk Should Christians Avoid? 

·     Hurtful words – So often we speak words that are meant to cut and hurt. Sometimes this comes from a bitter spirit and other times it comes from our own hurts and hang-ups from our past. Sarcasm can be skillfully used for good sometimes between people. Most of the time, however, it is simply meant to hurt. The Bible tells us that our words should build each other up. 

·     Words spoken in anger – Many times we hurt the people closest to us by bursting out in anger. Guard your heart and your words so that you do not lose control and damage those you love with angry words. Something that is spoken in anger can be forgiven, but it takes a long time for that wound to heal. Avoid posting angry, hurtful, demeaning words on social media. Think about the effect it will have on the gospel before you speak or write it. Defend your beliefs without rancor.

·     Lying – Lying is the most irresponsible of all the words we speak. The Bible says to speak the truth in love. You can speak the truth without personal attacks.

·     Unguarded words – These are words that are sexually inappropriate. I believe that Christians should set the example in the workplace and the public domain. Sexual harassment would never take place at any time or anywhere if we simply followed what the Bible says about our behavior and speech. Guard your words and guard your heart so you can avoid any impropriety.

·     Unforgiving words – We must always remember that no matter what has been done to us, it is nothing compared to what we have done to God. Do not speak unforgiving words but make it a habit to speak some of the sweetest words ever spoken – “I forgive you” or “I am sorry, please forgive me.” When we are forgiving and kind, it disarms people who want to argue.

Proverbs 31 speaks of a woman whose “price is far above rubies.” One of the values it extolls about her is that she has “the law of kindness” in her speech. God’s Word commands us to be kind to each other. It does not say that we are to be kind only to the people we like or those who are kind in return. By applying what God says about our language to our political discussions, we will be more like Jesus and shine brighter in the darkness. 


10 Qualities to Look for When Joining a Church



As a pastor, I don’t like it when people leave my church. If I am being honest, it hurts my feelings and makes me wonder what I did wrong. It is tempting to get an attitude about it and make snide remarks. But the wonderful truth is that God has many churches that are doing His work and making a difference for the Kingdom. I love that. As much as I don’t like it when people leave my church, I must admit that God does have a plan that is bigger than mine and He sometimes lends His people to me to pastor for a time. Sometimes, it is His will for them to go somewhere else because they have a need that our church can’t fulfill, or He has a work for them to do elsewhere. Of course, I am not taking about people that leave for the wrong reasons or that stop going to church altogether. 

On the other hand, I love it when people join my church. Rarely do pastors complain about that. We tend to complain when God leads people away from our ministry. Sometimes we complain because of jealousy, but most often it is simply because we forget to keep a “big picture” mentality of the Kingdom of God. Obviously, there are Christian consumers that treat church like a restaurant. As long as they like the menu and the service, they will continue to come. Part of our job as pastors is to help people mature beyond that kind of thinking and become contributors; servants with their sleeves rolled up ready to contribute, serve, and sacrifice to make Christ’s bride pleasing to Him and to fulfill His mission in the earth.

What should a person or a family look for when deciding to join a church? Obviously, they should pray and seek God’s will. Programming, teaching styles, family needs, and worship styles are important, but should not be the ultimate determining factors. Here are ten questions to ask when seeking to join a church.

1. Is Jesus Christ exalted? 

I believe the first assignment of any church is to exalt Jesus Christ. Some churches seem to exalt and honor the pastor, their programming, their tradition, their facilities, or even the work of the Holy Spirit. The work of the Spirit is essential, but Jesus Christ must be exalted above all else.

2. Are people receiving Christ and being baptized?

I do not believe God has called every church to be a mega church. God has a unique job for every church and gives unique gifts to leaders. Different sizes and styles of churches are needed to reach all kinds of people. What is not debatable from the Scriptures, however, is that God expects every church to reach people and make disciples. Churches, regardless of size, that seldom or never see people saved and baptized are not fulfilling God’s plan. 

3. Is life transformation happening?

Are people’s lives being changed? Are they becoming more like Jesus? We are not talking about perfection, but transformation. Jesus Christ came to bring dead things to life! Life-change happens when the gospel is preached, taught, and modeled. 

4. Is there a spirit of generosity?

If giving and generosity are not talked about and taught boldly how can people learn to live God’s way with their money, possessions, and careers? Christians and churches must be generous if they are to be like Christ. You can give without loving but you can’t love without giving.

5. Is there a clear, compelling vision?

Not every church should be alike. I believe God wants many different kinds and styles of churches. He is very creative. There should be a clear and compelling vision of what God wants your church to be. All churches should fulfill the Great Commission, but each church must fulfill the specific mission God has for it. All churches do not need to look exactly alike, but the vision should be clear and compelling.  

6. Does the leadership hear from God?

According to scripture, pastors should spend a significant amount of time studying scripture and praying. Why is that important? Because pastors must hear from God so that they can lead the church. Hearing from God is vital for Holy Spirit anointed preaching and teaching. 

7. Are there high levels of involvement?

Are many people volunteering or is there a sense of entitlement? When we become consumers, more concerned about being served than serving, we have lost our way as believers. This is a subtle enemy and it is easy to get into a dangerous comfort zone and fail to live on the offense for Jesus Christ. Are there pathways to involvement and opportunities to serve and use your gifts?

8. Is there a sense of belonging?

Belonging involves much more than receiving a friendly handshake and a cup of coffee before you walk into the service. Can you form meaningful relationships that will help you live your Christian life? A sense of community is critical for a church to reach beyond its four walls. Christ compels the church to have open arms. The church is not to be a country club for insiders, but a hospital for the sick and a rescue station for the lost. Sadly, some churches only welcome those that look like them, talk like them, smell like them, like the same music they like, and point out the sins of others while covering their own sin.

9. Is there a spirit of faith?

It is impossible to please God apart from faith. Does the church emphasize steps of faith in your life? Are their bold initiatives that challenge the entire body? Churches that are paralyzed by fear and refuse to change and improve structure, location, or programming because they are afraid to lose members are operating under the fear of man rather than the fear of God. You can get that at work. You don’t need it at church.

10. Does this church have open arms to the community?

It is critical to minister to the community in a way that emulates the attitude of Jesus. Otherwise, the church is just a relic of the past, in most people’s minds, and has no traction for transformation. We must be the church, not just go to the church building for events and rituals.

These ten questions will help you determine whether or not you should join a church. I hope you will totally immerse yourself in the church will become a contributor, not just a consumer. Always remember that there is no perfect church. But Jesus is perfect, and He has a perfect place for you to grow, become more like Him, and bring glory and honor to His name and mission. 


Four Reasons You Should Laugh Often



You may have never heard anyone say, “Laughter leads to success.” In fact, many successful people have little sense of humor. No one wants to hear the President of the United States begin the State of the Union address with, “Two guys walked into a bar…” But have you ever wondered why God gave humans the ability to laugh? Laughter is a uniquely human trait. So why did God give us a “funny bone?” What is so important about laughter? 

King Solomon, considered one of the wisest men who ever lived, wrote, “a merry heart does us good like a medicine.” Imagine that. Holy Scripture not only allows for merriment and laughter but also encourages it. 

Psychologists have studied laughter and have discovered some amazing benefits. I believe that these benefits spill over into our personal and professional lives and empower us to be more successful at work, in life, and in relationships. 


Laughter benefits you physically

Laughter brings many physical benefits. It releases endorphins and dopamine, which aid your emotions and your mood. It improves mental and physical balance. Laughter leads to greater relaxation and helps reduce pain and stress. In a very real sense laughter does your body good like a medicine. When you are healthier physically, you can perform better at work.


Laughter benefits you mentally 

The cognitive benefits of laughter manifest in several ways. It leads to greater creativity. It strengthens your problem-solving ability, which enables you to be better at your job. Laughter helps lower stress and enhances your memory, which gives you a sharper mind for tacking tough jobs. 


Laughter benefits you emotionally

 Laughter improves the dynamics of personal relationships. It is important to note that the kind of laughter I am talking about comes from human interaction. Laughing while watching a television show alone probably does not have the same effect. But when you laugh while interacting with your spouse, friends, or coworkers it gives you a positive sense of connection. It connects you emotionally, elevates your mood, increases your self-esteem, and improves your attitude and outlook. Laughing will reduce your stress and increase your optimism and hope. 


Laughter benefits you socially

Laughing will help you bond with your family and friends. It strengthens marriages and other close relationships. But make sure it does not come at the other’s expense. Laugh with them not at them. 

This will help strengthen the emotional connection with others and will lead to a stronger bond. 

I hope you will take time to laugh. Laughter can improve you emotionally, socially, mentally and physically. These improvements can lead to greater opportunities for success professionally and personally. So, spend time with family and friends. Tell funny stories. Recollect those darn things the kids said. Watch a funny movie together. Tell a joke. It will be an elixir for your soul and could be the very medicine you need. 



Creating a Grace Culture within Avalon Kids


           Children’s Ministry is as challenging as it is rewarding. Like having a child of your own, the process of having a baby is grueling, but once you have the child, nothing in the world could ever take his or her place. Just like becoming a parent, serving in Avalon Kids will grab your heart and never let go.

            Serving as a Team Member in Avalon Kids comes with great responsibility.  It may be one of the greatest responsibilities one can pursue. We are responsible for the kid’s well-being, both physically and spiritually, and that is a responsibility not to be taken lightly. We are constantly asking ourselves, “Are we showing the love of Christ to each and every child that walks into our doors? Are we creating an environment that is engaging and fun so that each child can learn about Jesus on his or her level?” The answer must always be yes. 

            So why serve? The why is simple. To show love in action. A few years ago, my wife wrote a beautiful letter and I want to share it with you:


There was a six-year-old little girl that started to attend Avalon Kids. Her mother brought her to church every Sunday, along with her younger sister, faithfully. It wasn’t long after that her father began to join them. Each Sunday, she was greeted by smiling faces and open arms of people that weren’t her biological family, but would one day be her Kingdom family. These individuals were there each Sunday just like this little girl, and they even developed a relationship with not only the young girl, but with her little sister and the parents, too. With every Sunday that passed, the little girl learned more and more about the love of Jesus Christ, not only through expression of song and dance, or even Bible verses and lessons, but through the kindness shown by those that came each Sunday to love her for that hour. It wasn’t three months later that she felt a strong calling by Jesus to accept Him as her Lord and Savior. She was so adamant that she knew Him so closely and wanted everyone to know that He lived in her heart that she wanted to be baptized that very day when the baptismal wasn’t even filled. She would eventually be baptized just a few weeks later on Easter Sunday. Her relationship and walk with Christ continued to grow as she grew. She became more confident in her walk and expressing her faith with support from other volunteers. She started to lead praise and worship, she helped others to pray to receive Christ, and she even helped her own baby sister in her walk with Christ so that she, too, would hear His calling on her life. This child has been influenced by so many volunteers in the Families Ministry, and would undoubtedly not be on this journey nor have the footing she does without the investment these individuals chose to make. I cannot stress the impact you WILL have on a child or teen’s life if you listen this calling on your life right now. God is calling you to move. More like pushing you out of your seat, lifting your hand to grab the Next Step card in the seat pocket in front of you (I just had to say that). I myself started volunteering about five years ago in Avalon Kids. I started off only volunteering every other week, but on the weeks I didn’t volunteer, I found myself missing “my kiddos”. And let me tell you, there was never some miraculous event that happened in any child’s life because I changed a diaper, or because I cleaned a booboo, or even because I danced like a goofy grown up to the songs. But what has happened are lasting memories and bonds that I know in my heart will never be forgotten and building blocks have been laid for a foundation to be built upon as these children grow and mature in their relationship with Christ. I no longer volunteer with children as I have moved on to the cool kids (Avalon Students – aka the youth), but I still have little ones that run up to me filled with excitement shouting “Ms. Dani, Ms. Dani! I know my memory verse!” and they immediately recite it for me. My heart swells with pride and joy, and it’s at that moment I’m reminded why volunteering is so important.


Volunteering isn’t rocket science, guys. It’s simply love in action. And sometimes that love in action is simply keeping kids alive and injury free – no joke. But most days it’s doing what is both the most complicated, and yet the simplest expressions of love. It’s a hug, a high five, a coloring sheet, a sticker for doing a good job, gold fish and juice (those folks are the true unsung heroes), changing a dirty diaper, singing alongside kids and teens during praise and worship, playing games, chatting it up with a teenager to see how their week has been, lending a shoulder to cry on when life gets hard, praying with the kids and teens, but most importantly reminding them that they ARE LOVED – by you, by their family, by the church, by their teachers, but never ever more than GOD.

You matter. What you do matters. Every Sunday is someone’s first Sunday and quite possibly their first interaction with someone who can show them the Love of Christ. As a parent, we HAVE to be willing to step up and step into this role. We cannot sit idly by and leave it up to someone else. You and I must be a part of these kid’s lives. Not just today, or tomorrow, but every day. So, what’s your next step? Today, you have the opportunity to be a change in someone’s life. Think about that one person who took the time to show you the love of Christ and then be that person to one of our awesome young ones in Avalon Kids!


To get connected and take your next step, email to get started!


I love you all!


Brian Tatum
Children’s Pastor



The True Meaning of Worship


­Worship in today’s church is probably one of the most, if not the most, misunderstood things in the church.  If we were to poll people on what comes to mind when you ­­hear the word worship, what is the first thing you think they would say?  The top things on that list, in some way or another, would most likely be related to music.  To take it a step further, most people’s mind would probably visualize scenes of people raising their hands reminiscent of the Christian worship albums back in the 90’s.  I googled the word worship and out of the first 10 images, 9 of them that come up are of hands being raised in the silhouette of a stage, a cross or some other lovely background.  Sadly, this is what worship has been reduced to in our world, but true worship is so much more than that.  It’s so much more than singing lyrics off the screen at church.  It’s so much more than the first 20 minutes of a church service or what we do at a Christian conference or retreat.  I love how Louie Giglio defines it in his book The Air I Breathe.  He says that “worship is a whole-life response to God’s greatness and glory.” 


Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.  Romans 12:1


For us to get a better idea of what true worship is, there are a few things I think we all need to understand.


Created to Worship

We were created to be worshipers.  It doesn’t matter if we attend church or not.  It doesn’t matter if we call ourselves Christians or not.  We all worship something.  Worship is universal.  No matter where you go in the world you will find people worshiping.  Even in the darkest corners of the globe where people have never even heard the name of Jesus, people have created false gods or idols, to worship.  This is because deep down in our souls, we have a longing and a deep desire to worship.  So, the question is not if you are worshiping or not but rather who are what you are worshiping. 


We See Before We Sing

For us to begin worshiping something we must discover the importance and value it brings to our lives.  We have to see something.  We have to witness something.  Matt Redman says, “worship is not as much about singing as it is about seeing.”  Throughout history, people have searched high and low for different objects to worship only to be left feeling empty.  This is where the Gospel comes in.  This is where grace comes in.  When our eyes are opened to the fact that God gave His only son to die, to pay for our sin, then and only then, are we driven to true worship.  When our eyes are truly opened to the wonder of the cross something shifts inside us and the things we once thought were most important fall away and Jesus alone becomes the driving force of our lives.


Whole-Life Response 

What is a whole life response?  A whole life response is expressed in the things that we say and the things that we do.  We don’t just tell people we love them we need to show them.  It’s the same way with God.  He doesn’t just want us to sing songs to Him, He wants to see us lay down our life for Him in total surrender. 


Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise—the fruit of lips 

that openly profess his name. And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for

with such sacrifices God is pleased.  Hebrews 13:15-16


So, worship is singing praises to God but it goes much deeper.  Worship by serving.  Get involved by volunteering.  Get involved in a small group.  Serve the community and those in need around the world by serving with Avalon HOPE.  Click the link below for more information on how to get involved.




Give your whole life to Jesus because Jesus gave His whole life for you!


Jonathan Hamilton
Worship Arts Pastor

Keeping Students From Being Christian Dropouts

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There is a startling statistic that says 70 percent of all teenagers will drop out of church between the ages 17 to 19 years old. When I stop and think about this statement it can bring me to a place of turmoil and hopelessness. I have a heavy heart when I think about what our students will do in what can be the most life-altering and life-defining season. Up to the point when they graduate high school, their lives tend to be decided for them. What they do with their time, where they go, and how they are provided for is, in most situations, decided for them. Once they graduate, most of our young people are completely immersed in the real world and many times experience a liberation of identity. This is a point at which they truly begin to create their own identity apart from family.  They begin to ask the question, “What do I think?” No longer is their identity dictated by parents, teachers, or in some cases pastors, but they have the freedom to begin to define their own identity.  As I mentioned at the beginning, the percentages say that this leads to a dropout of faith for 70 percent of all our students. The question I pose to myself as a pastor is, “How do we change this?” 

In our Avalon Students (AVS) ministry, we are working to combat this struggle.  I believe God has given us an answer to this question, and we are continuously putting it into action.  I believe God’s answer is clear and simple.  To help our students step into the next season of their lives and allow God and the church to be a part of it, we need to do two things.  First, we must help our students know God. Second, we must help them experience God.  If during their time in AVS our students learn to know God and how to experience God, then when they step out of this ministry, they will have a faith that is all their own and not based on or decided by anyone else.  Once someone truly knows God and has experienced Him, then they are changed in a way that is undeniable. 

With these two purposes in mind, we have developed two very different but equally important parts of our student ministry. We have Wednesday night services as well as middle school and high school small groups.  Wednesday nights focus on knowing God through biblical teaching from the leaders and myself, while also focusing on experiencing God through fellowship with other believers and worshipping God in song.  Small groups focus on experiencing and knowing God by connecting with each other through discussions. It is through those discussions that students share real-life struggles and begin to find answers in God’s Word in order to apply it to their lives.  We do all of this with the desire that every student in our Avalon Student Ministry will find his or her personal identity in Christ.  The only way to know the purpose we were created for is to truly know the One who created us. 

I believe helping our students know and experience God is how we are able to keep them from dropping out of church and their relationship with God.  I see this truth come to life on a weekly basis when students who are struggling in life come to Avalon because they have found a home in our ministry.  I see it in the students who make the decision to take the next step in his or her relationship with God through salvation or baptism.  I see it in the messages I receive from students saying, “If it weren’t for Avalon Students helping me see that God cared in my darkest moment, I may not be alive.”  I see it in the outcast students who find a place to belong.  I see it in the student whose questions were always ignored but have now found answers in our ministry.  The truth is, every student is looking for his or her identity. If we can help them personally know God and experience Him, then their searching will end.  At that moment, instead of dropping out when high school ends, it will only be the next step towards the future and hope they have found in Jesus!

Brady Ellis
Family Ministries Pastor

Finding Community at Avalon Church


Throughout Church history, small groups of people have gathered to discuss scripture and the Gospel of Jesus Christ. From the early home churches started by the apostles, to Southern Baptist Sunday School, small groups have been influential in the development of the believer’s life. At Avalon Church, we continue this institution. Life is meant to be lived together. From the start, we are born with a longing for community with other people. Avalon Small Groups are born of this tradition of growing disciples through intimate study and the God-given need to be in a community.

One of our value statements as a church is “We're Better Together.” This applies not only to church services but our lives outside the church walls. From the creation of the Church in Acts 1 to our modern gatherings in 2018, God has created his Church to be a unified family. One of the best ways to find community at Avalon Church is through small groups. There are countless stories of the impact groups have had on our members’ lives. Lives are changed from finding friends, discovering a sense of belonging, and growing spiritually. Growth happens when a group of believers comes together to pray over one another. I have heard countless stories of how God answered those prayers miraculously. This causes people to grow deeper in their relationship with Christ. Now, God does not need a small group of people in order to work in our lives. He chooses to meet us in that realm and uses small groups to connect us as a spiritual family.


I was talking with one of our members earlier this week. Her husband had recently been in an accident and was at the hospital awaiting discharge. She described the accident to me. As she went through what she witnessed, she kept going back to something that I found interesting. She said that without her small group and other church members being there to assist in the aftermath of the accident, she does not know how her family would have fared. She credited her church family with the comfort her family felt in such a stressful and scary situation. She said it still surprises her that she is a part of a group of people who genuinely love each other and walk out that love when it matters most.

            This story captures our vision for Avalon Small Groups. Our desire is for everyone at Avalon to have this same kind of experience. You can find life in community by simply emailing with your name, email, and phone number. You can also stop by Next Step Central on Sunday morning, and someone will be there to guide you.

            True community and life change are available when we walk alongside our church family in Small Groups at Avalon Church.


Justin McIntyre
Connections Pastor

Creating a Culture of Grace



At Avalon Church we want to create a grace culture. We strive to teach and preach the gospel of God’s grace. We believe that salvation is entirely of God’s grace to us through Jesus Christ and his finished work on the cross. Grace is God’s kindness and favor to us. It is unearned, unmerited, and undeserved. We are gospel-rooted, and our vision is bringing people, wherever they are, into a growing relationship with Jesus.

Not only do we want to teach God’s grace, we also want to show God’s grace to others. We show grace to others through kindness, respect, attitude, cooperation, and encouragement. If we truly believe in receiving grace from God, then we will express it to others too. 

How can we show grace or kindness to others? 

·     Show up on time.Get here in time to check in, get coffee, and speak to some friends. Be in your seat when the music starts. That is kind to others and kind to yourself. It allows you to get the entire experience of worship with a gathering of believers.

·     Stay until the end of the service.This shows respect to people who are making spiritual decisions and lets them know that you are excited about their next steps. 

·     Be friendly.Go out of your way to greet new people and shake their hand. This is everyone’s job, not just the Guest Services Team and the ushers. We want to create a welcoming culture that is warm, friendly, and accepting of others. Many people never receive a kind word all week at home or at work. The world’s culture breeds disrespect, but we can show the love of Jesus by respecting others and loving them by paying attention to them. Be kind. Smile. 

·     Serve.When you show up ready to serve others, you reflect the grace and love of Jesus. Volunteers are the lifeblood of a local congregation. Without great volunteers a church can’t fulfill the mission given to us by Jesus – loving people and bringing them into a growing relationship with Jesus. God designed the church to be a living, growing body not an organization or club. That is why the Bible employs metaphors like a body, a flock, and a family to describe the church. Volunteering has many benefits to you personally as well. It allows us to fulfill Jesus’ command to serve. It connects us and makes us feel like a part of a team. It helps us develop deep relationships. It fulfills us and gives an avenue to fulfill our purpose. Treat your volunteer ministry as a priority. Showing up on time for your pre-service meeting is essential. This allows you to pray with your team and get ready to serve others. 

·     Assist people who are new.Don’t just tell them where the children’s area is, walk with them. It is the job of every member. Your attitude should always be positive and friendly. Answer their questions. If you don’t know the answer take them to your team leader or a staff member. 

·     Celebrate.When you celebrate baptism, salvation, and other spiritual decisions, you let people know that you care. Be an encourager of people! Participate in worship. Take advantage of the children’s and student’s ministries. This helps your children celebrate Jesus and creates an atmosphere of worship without distraction.

·     See the big picture.The ultimate win happens when we serve and love others. A great program is good, but it is not the vital win. Always be prepared to help outside of your area of ministry. Remember that the vision is for the whole church not just your particular area of ministry.

This helps us grow in a culture of grace. Together we will bring people, wherever they are, into a growing relationship with Jesus.

Avalon Church is the perfect place for imperfect people.It is not just a slogan. It is who we are! 



How to Find the Energy to Get Through a Busy Week

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Sometimes you just need a little pick-me-up. Coffee does it for me in the mornings. Confession: I am a bit of a coffee snob. Every morning I drink a pot of freshly ground French-Pressed coffee of a particular brand that shall not be named. Black. Steaming. Delicious. Strong as steel. High octane. I love it. In fact, I often think about it at night as I am drifting off to sleep. I can’t wait to wake up and sip a bit of the nectar of the gods. For all of those who drink the pricey froufrou drinks from a drive-through each morning, you are not drinking coffee. You are starting your day with a high calorie milkshake. But whether you drink energy drinks, caffeinated milkshakes, peppy sodas, or coffee (as God intended), we all need an energy boost when we get tired. So how do you find the energy to make it through a busy week? 

Here are four things I do regularly to create energy each day.

1.    I begin my day with faith. 

Every morning I read some faith statements that bring me energy. I remind myself that I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I say to myself, “No barrier is too great to derail God’s purpose and plan for me today.” I recall that I have every resource I need through Christ. I state by faith that I have the energy, passion, and strength through Christ to live for his plan today. I remind myself that God loves me and cares for every detail in my life. Reminding myself that I live through God’s strength rather than my own gives me energy and creates momentum for my day.

2.    I prioritize worship. 

I have learned that worshipping God at the beginning of my day gives me strength and passion. Reading scripture and praying, even if just for a few minutes, helps me. It may sound counterintuitive to spend even a few minutes doing that when you are tired, but I have found that it strengthens me even when I am tired and busy. 

I have also found that going to church greatly energizes me. You are probably thinking that going to church is my job, but that isn’t my primary motivation. Corporate worship invigorates me and helps me get through the week. The sense of community I get by coming together with other believers and experiencing the presence and power of God is one of the most encouraging, life-giving, and energizing things I can do. People often share with me that before they came to church they were tired, frustrated, and discouraged. But after they experienced the power of Christian community, worship, and the teaching of God’s Word, they felt better and were glad that they came to church. I believe in the power of a gathering of believers when we focus on Jesus. 

3.    I strive to create margin in my schedule.

We are all busy. Sometimes we are busier than others. There are certainly times that we don’t have total control over our schedule. There are many things I can’t control as a pastor. Sunday comes every week. I have to be ready. I have no control over great portions of my schedule. People get sick, die, get married, and have emergencies without ever consulting my schedule. I have meetings to lead and work that requires my attention every week. 

I have learned, however, that there are many things I can control. I control much of what I say “yes” to and what I say “no” to. I can create margin by setting priorities. I control what I eat. A healthier diet gives me more energy. I control when I go to bed and when I get out of bed. I control whether or not I exercise. I have found that much of my energy comes from simple decisions like what I eat, when I sleep, and how much I exercise. There are certain habits and activities that I say “no” to simply because I need margin in my life. Often, we are exhausted because we have not learned to say “no” to some things. 

4.    I remind myself to rest in God’s grace. 

Worry drains the energy and life out of you. It uses a lot of energy. We only have so much energy. I can choose not to waste my limited energy by trusting in God’s grace and choosing to trust him rather than worry. You must practice not worrying. It comes by faith. But you can get good at giving God your worries when you remember that he cares for you. The more you rest in his grace, the more margin you create, and the more energy you have. 

You can’t control everything in your life, but you can practice these four habits to create energy for your day. My prayer for you is that you find the energy you need through Jesus! 

Honesty: The First Step to Financial Success

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In Psalm 51 King David wrote about his moral and leadership failure. He wrote about repentance, forgiveness, and restoration. One of my favorite verses from this passage is found in verse fifty-one. “But you desire honesty from the heart, so you can teach me to be wise in my inmost being.” (NLT)

Getting brutally honest with yourself is the first step to recovery and restoration of any kind. Until David got honest, he could not get better. The same is true with you and your finances. Take a long, hard look in the mirror and get brutally honest. That is really hard to do. It is a lot easier to make excuses and blame someone or something else. But until you get totally honest about your debt, your spending habits, and your income, you will never prosper. This principle applies to people from every economic level. It really does not matter how much money you make if you don’t manage it well. Spending more than you make is a path that only has one end – disaster.

Did you ever go to a carnival or a fair that had one of those funny mirrors that distorts how you look? I love standing in front of the one that makes you look thin and tall. I like to imagine myself being seven feet tall and playing in the NBA, dunking the basketball, blocking shots, bumping chests with my teammates, and blowing kisses to thousands of adoring fans. While fun to imagine, it is completely unrealistic. I would never blow kisses. 

Isn’t that the way we like to look at ourselves? With distorted reality. It is hard to look at ourselves in the mirror of God’s Word, but that is exactly what is necessary. We have to know our own heart before we can change. We must take an honest look at our financial picture before we can improve it. 

You must decide about how you manage your money. Do you want margin, less stress, and less worry? Do you want to plan for retirement? Do you want the financial peace that comes from managing your debt well and having enough money to pay your bills? Do you want to live with God’s blessings or if you want to live with stress and pressure all your life? Do you want to be able to give as God leads you? You must decide whether or not you are going to try to impress people you don’t like by buying things you don’t need with money you don’t have. Good luck with that. The better way is to get honest, get a plan, and determine to find contentment with what you have until you can afford more. Decide to get out of debt. You can do it. You can have peace. You can have true prosperity. But you can’t have it if you live like most Americans – spend more than you make, live on credit cards, rack up bad debt, make minimum payments, live a lie, and have absolutely no clue where your money goes. 

Before I can live a blessed life financially, I have to get to know my own heart and be honest with myself about what I want in life and where those desires come from. Until you take time to think through your income, debt, and spending habits, you will not be able to establish a strong plan. 

Do what David did. Pray. Ask God to help you. Become brutally honest with yourself. That is the first step to obtaining wisdom that permeates your innermost desires, thoughts, and plans. It is the first step to change. It is the first step to success. 


Respect in the Age of Trump

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If you watch much news or if you are on social media, then you are aware of the venom, vitriol, and disrespect that permeates our daily discourse. It hardly seems possible to have a civil conversation with someone who has an opinion that differs from yours. Rather than discuss ideas and defend our philosophical positions with intellectual acuity and dignity, we allow our conversations to devolve into silly epithets and grade-school-name-calling. It actually makes my head hurt. I have nearly sworn off social media interaction and watching the news. To prove my point, just because I included President Trump’s name in the title of this article, many readers reacted either positively or negatively, with disgust or ecstatic interest. 

We need to learn how to be respectful, even with those with whom we disagree. I truly believe respect helps a person be successful in life. Particularly in an age where there is such division and strife over politics that people can’t seem to disagree without being disagreeable. Respect is more important than ever now. Jesus Christ modeled and taught us how to respect and be respected. It is one of those non-negotiable attributes that Christians must demonstrate. How do you develop that kind of respect? 

1. Worship God. 

The Bible refers to this as reverent fear for God. One must respect and revere God and keep Him at the center of one’s life. You will not always understand everything about God. He is far too vast for our finite minds to comprehend. You can know Him though. He loves you. Always approach Him with reverent fear. We call this worship.

2. Demonstrate respect even if you disagree. 

You will not always agree with the authority in your life. Sometimes those in authority are wrong. It is important, however, to respect those with whom you disagree. There is far too much venom in our culture today. Be a part of the solution not a part of the problem.

3. Respect yourself.

Don’t go through life with a small view of yourself or the life God has given you. You are unique and have a unique purpose in life. Believe in the grand plan that God has for you. You are a leader. Leaders accomplish their mission with resolve. Do not operate in ego or pride. Admit it when you fail. Be transparent with your success and your mistakes. Learn your strengths and weaknesses. Work on your strengths most. Surround yourself with people who are better and smarter than you and don’t be afraid to give away praise and authority along with responsibility.

4. Respect others without fearing them. 

Fear God and only God. Respect all men. Cower before none. Stand in awe of God and his creation. Admire others and congratulate them for the good things in their life but do not stand in awe of them. They are only human, and the fear of man leads to failure. You are equally as valuable as they. Your attitude will separate you from the crowd; your work ethic, boldness, and respect will make a difference. Lead when others tremble. Do not be afraid to take risks. 

5. Respect begins at home. 

Men, respect your wife, cherish her, and love her. Seek to understand her. Remember, the things that you don’t understand are what make her mysterious and special. You can understand other men but will probably scratch your head when it comes to understanding women. On the other hand, you will get to make love to your wife and become one with her. That is worth not understanding a few things! Be kind to her. Do not belittle or berate her. God has charged the man with the responsibility of sanctifying his wife, so respect her. 

Women, respect your husband and love him. It is one of the great commands that God gives to wives. Although scripture certainly implies that women are to love their husbands, the far more explicit command for wives is that they are to respect their husbands. God knows that men feel loved through respect. In a culture that sees marriage as a place of self-fulfillment, God shows us that true fulfillment in marriage comes through self-sacrifice. The foundation of this kind of selfless expression is respect. 

What do you think you need to do to show more respect and reflect the love of Jesus in our current political climate? What needs to change in your daily conversations or in your social media interactions? Respect is a big deal and we need a lot more of it. You may not be able to change the entire national environment, but you can begin changing your environment today.